"Surprisingly, many times whena a mother feels exhausted by all the demands she feels placed upon her, it can actually be more helpful to reconnect throught closeness than to pull away, take a break, or quit responding to the baby's needs. Certainly, mothers are often tired and lacking sleep. Sometimes a few monets of rest and solitude really are the best solution. But, as someone once said, 'The best cure for exhaustion is wholeheartedness'.
"...But when our tiredness is siply an annoyance or a resistance to what is, we can choose to turn the clock to the wall, ignore the voices that tell us that fulfilling out babies' attaachment needs will spoil them, and value dependence as the healthy, natural job of an infant rather than a manipulative energy drain.
"Through opening out hearts widely, drawing from a source that is as deep and sweet as motherhood itserf, or finding solace in a friend who understands and can listen deeply, we can find rest even within our tiredness.
"When a baby needs to pee or nurse or be cuddled, that's what he or she needs. Right away. The laundry can wait; so can the dishes, the groceries, that phone call, or that exciting project you are finishing. They'll all be waiting fro you after you respond to your baby."
"Take time to slow down your day, appriciate the moment, and be where your hands are."
"...we learn to give up preconcieved ideas about parenting, our cultural definition of convenience, and the illusion that we are seperate from our babies."
-Ingrid Bauer, Diaper Free
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